Are you a single mom with an empty nest?
Feelings of sadness and loss are normal when our children leave home, but this transition can be especially tough for single parents. Many single empty-nesting parents face unique challenges that often go by married empty nesters.
BUT! There are advantages to being a single empty nester too! Read on to learn more.

What Is Empty Nest Syndrome?
Empty nest syndrome refers to feelings of sadness, loss, and emptiness that most parents experience when a child leaves home for the first time. At this time, the parental role we’ve played for so many years suddenly changes, and many of us feel a profound sense of loss and uncertainty about our purpose moving forward.
To learn more about Empty Nest Syndrome, including the signs and symptoms, its impact on our adult children and ways to cope, check out my article entitled Empty Nest Syndrome: From Surviving to Thriving in a Quiet House.
If you are in need of some great laughs, inspiration and a bit of comfort, my Quotes For Empty Nesters article is also worth a peek.
8 Challenges of an Empty Nest for Single Moms
Whereas many of the below challenges are not exclusive to single empty nest moms, they are commonly experienced to a more severe degree by single empty nesters than by their married counterparts.
1. Single empty nesting can be lonely
I call this “Too Much Me-Time”.
When your home transforms from a bustling, loud, and sometimes chaotic space into a weirdly silent zen-like retreat overnight, as a single empty nester, you might find yourself missing the noise and feeling lonely.
(Read our article entitled, Empty Nester With No Friends, for some great info on how to find and cultivate new friendships.)
The silver lining? Get ready for long, uninterrupted baths and reading a book without someone asking where their socks are. It’s a tough gig, but someone’s gotta do it!
2. Many empty nest moms struggle with loss of identity
“Uhm…Who am I, again?”
Many parents, especially single moms, often define themselves through this role. If you’ve spent years introducing yourself at parties as “Joe’s mom,” now, as an empty nester, you may feel at a loss in describing the person you see in the mirror. This could lead to an identity crisis as you struggle to reinvent yourself at this stage of life.
But, don’t worry, it happens to the best of us. Now, is your time to rediscover who you were before your name changed to “mommy,” “mom,” or (cringe)…the dreaded, “Bruh”!
3. A common complaint of single empty nest moms is loss of purpose
After the kids have moved out, single parents might feel a particularly acute sense of loss of purpose. Single empty nester moms can sometimes find it particularly difficult to find a new sense of direction and source of meaning if raising children has been their primary focus for many years.
This article about finding purpose in midlife will guide you through many of the steps I use to help clients find their purpose. (Hint. The first steps are always to identify your WHY and define your core personal values.)
4. Financial stress for single empty nest moms is REAL
Absence of a supporting partner can put financial planning and retirement savings under great strain, and this is, sadly, still particularly common for empty nest single moms.
Whereas it’s difficult to find the “lighter side” to financial stress, there ARE a few, new financial positives for the empty nest mom.
With the kids out of the house, you might be amazed at how long your groceries last now that you’re not feeding a small army.
And…who knew a box of cereal could last more than a day or a gallon of milk more than a few hours? You can now trade those bulk shopping trips for buying indulgent treats for yourself (that don’t mysteriously vanish with only the wrapper left behind – on the counter).
You can also say goodbye to those colossal utility bills with fewer lights left on, less water being used, and no more fights over the thermostat!
5. Some empty nest moms lack emotional support and social interactions
Single mothers with an empty nest may lack emotional support and someone with whom to share their feelings. Your social calendar, once bursting with your kids’ soccer matches and ballet recitals, is now a ghost town.
In my popular article, Why Making Friends in Midlife is So Hard, I go into detail regarding some of the reasons why this is true for so many of us as well as provide some additional tips on how to make friends in midlife.
I also explore this topic in my articles about how to make friends if you have moved to a new city, identify as a social introvert or are looking for a new, less toxic, friend group.
6. Empty nesting moms might have difficulty with letting go
Single empty nester moms may find it difficult to let their young adult children become fully independent, leading to over-involvement in their lives.
This might be you if your birdies have flown the coop, but you keep building an irresistible nest – baking their favorite cookies, keeping their rooms just so, or over-involving yourself in their distant lives.
This might be very satisfying and temporarily anxiety reducing for the empty nest single mom, but it can create an unhealthy dynamic.
It’s time to let the fledglings fly!
7. New technology may be a challenge for empty nesting single moms
Keeping in touch with your adult children and trying to figure out all the latest tech gadgets (including your own TV) without your in-house tech support can be a challenge for an empty nester single mom.
You may also need to update your tech skills in order to keep up with the latest communication trends and engage with your adult children. Let go of your self-limiting beliefs and embrace this opportunity to learn and grow; it will not only help you stay connected with your kids, but also open doors for finding new interests, activities and hobbies.
8. There may be a shortage of career opportunities for single empty nest moms
Single empty nest moms who devoted much of their time to parenting may find it challenging to reenter the workforce due to outdated skills or lack of opportunities. However, this is also the perfect time to reinvent yourself professionally, perhaps even starting your own new business!
Think about it. You have survived the “I won’t eat anything green” phase, navigated through teenage angst, and still managed to keep your household running smoothly ALL BY YOURSELF!!!
Without realizing it, you have developed skills such as negotiation, crisis management, multitasking, and resource allocation; all while likely living on a tight budget. Quite frankly, you’re overqualified for most jobs out there!
10 Advantages of an Empty Nest for Single Moms
Embracing the empty nest phase as a single mom may come with its fair share of challenges, but it is also a season of reinvention, growth, and empowerment. It’s a chance to champion the art of self-love, independence, and new adventures.
1. Empty nest single moms have greater independence
This one is really important! As a single empty nester, you are able to make all of your own decisions without needing to consult or compromise with a spouse.
You have total freedom to (just a few examples):
Have relationships with anyone you want
Experiment with a new lifestyle.
Take up a new hobby
Walk around the house in your underwear all day
Eat ice cream for dinner without setting a bad example
Binge-watch your favorite shows without judgement or interruptions
Live anywhere, including downsizing to a smaller home or moving to a dream destination
Go back to school or pursue additional educational interests
Cook and eat whatever and whenever you want
Take on new career opportunities without the constraint of family responsibilities
Play your favorite ’80s tunes on repeat as many times as you want!
2. Single empty nesters enjoy more personal time
As a single empty nester, you can dedicate whatever time you’d like to your long neglected self-development and personal interests.
With your increased personal time, you can (among other things):
Focus on your own fitness and nutrition goals
Volunteer and become more involved in your community
Prioritize self-care, relaxation and leisure activities
3. Empty nest single moms have more flexible schedules
As a single mom with an empty nest, your schedule is entirely yours. You do what you want, when you want. There’s no need to coordinate with a spouse’s preferences, goals, timetables or commitments.
Yes, you may have a job requiring you to be certain places and certain times doing certain things…but the choice to remain in that job is up to you.
Be sure to use some of your newly found free time to plan memorable dates and group social activities with your friends!
4. Single empty nest parents have more space
Living alone, empty nest single moms have plenty of physical space at home, providing the perfect opportunity to redecorate or transform a spare room into a home gym, office, hobby room…or anything else your heart desires! (I know someone who converted much of her house into a haven for homeless cats.)
You might even find you have so much space that you decide to rent out a room for extra cash, or even sell your house and downsize to something that is perfect for just you.
5. Single empty nesters can have exciting new relationships
Being a single empty nester opens up all kinds of possibilities for new romantic relationships and friendships.
While MANY still married empty nesters are struggling to “reconnect” with their partners, you’re already off to the races and onto exciting new relationships.
You can make new friends or reconnect with old ones without worrying about the opinions or the social quirks of your partner.
(If you are dating, check out my article on dating ideas for older couples for inspiration.)
6. Opportunities for self-discovery for single empty nest parents
With kids out of the house and no spouse, empty nesting provides an excellent opportunity for single moms to rediscover their interests and identities outside the context of a mother and wife.
There are nearly unlimited options! I’ve previously written extensively about empty nest hobbies, social hobbies and interesting hobbies for women in midlife.
7. Empty nest singles have total financial control
You may have less of it than dual earning households, but, as a single empty nester, the management of your money is solely your responsibility. This gives you the freedom to budget, save, and spend however you see fit.
8. There is less disorganization and housework in a single empty nest
Ah the joys of finding your keys right where you left them because no one has borrowed your car without asking! And…with fewer people in the house, there is less cleaning, cooking, and laundry to do.
It’s amazing how easy it is to maintain a cleaner, more organized home when it’s just you living in it.
You might actually miss cleaning…. Nah. That’s crazy!
9. A single mom’s empty nest can be a very peaceful environment
Remember those days when your bathroom sessions felt like public events, with kids pounding on the door and your spouse needing to discuss weekend plans?
Well, those chaotic days are over!
Without the constant hustle and bustle of a family household, you can enjoy a serene and quiet home environment. Sip wine in the bathtub, read a book, or watch a movie without any interruptions.
Your home life feels like being on vacation. No packing needed!
10. Successful single empty nest moms are empowered!
I’ve left the most important advantage for last. Learning to successfully navigate the world as a single empty nest mom will absolutely cultivate a sense of self-confidence and empowerment.
You, and you alone, are in charge of your own happiness and well-being, making decisions for yourself without the influence or input of others. Embrace this newfound independence and take pride in being a strong, capable woman!
Final Thoughts
In my practice as a Clinical Psychologist, I’ve observed that the single empty nesting moms who most easily transition to this phase of life are those who understand their core personal values, have a solid social support system of friends and family and have a sense of identity beyond their children.
If you have one near you, women’s social clubs, such as The Trybe Women’s Social Club, have many benefits and provide fantastic opportunities to easily make new friends and discover new passions.
I cannot stress enough the importance of embracing this new chapter of your life with an open mind and adventurous spirit. The empty nest phase might seem daunting and lonely to the single empty nester, but with the right mindset and a proactive approach, it CAN be a time that is brimming with opportunities for personal growth and exploration.
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I'm Dr. Angela Caveney. I'm a Clinical Psychologist, Neuropsychologist, Founder of The Trybe Women's Social Club and leader of the Midlife Reimagined Mastermind.
If you are interested in learning more about the Mastermind or in creating a community of your own, reach out to me at angela@the-trybe.com to start the conversation.