Are you feeling the need for a little (or a lot) of midlife reinvention and wondering how on earth you’ll manage it alone? Don’t worry. You’re not meant to. In this article, we’ll look at why every midlifer needs their own skilled and qualified midlife coach to navigate this next stage!
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What is a Midlife Coach?
Behind every successful sportsperson, entrepreneur, or public figure is a tough-loving, goal-stretching, “go get ‘em tiger” coach with fire in their belly, sparks in their eyes, and a profound belief in their client’s ability to hit those audacious goals.
But coaches aren’t just for elite performers in professional environments. These powerful relationships can offer profound value to each of our lives, especially as we navigate the turbulence of midlife.
From feeling stuck in a rut to midlife divorce, a midlife coach will help you work through the transitions, challenges, and – yes – opportunities that hurtle toward you at 100mph. And they’ll be there to keep you accountable and, most importantly, make sure you show up for yourself.
I’m a midlife reinvention coach (and I absolutely love what I do), which is why I can confidently say that midlife coaching can change your life. So much so, that I created a 12-Week Midlife Reinvention Mastermind to help people like you (and me) to think bigger about what’s possible for us in our 2nd acts.
What Issues Do Midlife Coaches Address?
A good midlife reinvention coach will listen to your woes, sure. But only for a bit. Coaches exist for a purpose; to guide you forward with a laser-like focus on where you want to be.
As a midlife coach, I can help you proactively navigate a wide range of challenges we often face during this stage of life. These include everything from empty-nesting and changing relationships with friends to the desire to get “unstuck,” reinvent ourselves, and even reconnect with our partners. Together, we can work toward creating your future…one that excites you and is rich with possibility.
Feel like you’re so stuck you have absolutely no idea what you need to change? Perhaps you just feel angry at everything and a bit lost?
That’s fine. Wherever you’re starting from, midlife coaching will help you get unstuck and move forward.
What’s the Difference Between Midlife Coaching and Therapy?
Because I am a midlife coach AND a licensed Clinical Psychologist, I have a LOT to say about this.
To keep things simple and concise… Coaches work with generally psychologically healthy people looking to enhance and optimize their lives in an action-focused way.
People dealing with any form of long-standing mental illness, on the other hand, should consult a licensed Clinical Psychologist for therapy.
A common misconception about therapy vs coaching is that Psychologists work to heal past traumas, whereas coaches focus on present and future goals. This isn’t entirely accurate, as there are different types of Psychologists. For example, Psychoanalysts do often focus on the past, but Cognitive-Behavioral Psychologists (like me) primarily stay in the here and now. We are structured, goal-oriented, and focus on how clients’ current thoughts and behaviors are affecting their lives.
As you can imagine, therapy is profoundly valuable for many people in many circumstances, but in this article I’ll continue to focus specifically on midlife coaching.
Midlife Coaching and “The Work”
It’s worth mentioning here that my coaching clients are typically successful, active “go-getters” who feel they have lost their way, their spark, and often their drive as they deal with midlife transitions.
They are motivated by challenge and very familiar with the concept of working for results. They value expert “tough love” and being held accountable. (If the phrase “radical accountability” delights and scares you in equal measure, you’re in the right place.)
That’s not to say I’m not ready or uniquely qualified to support you with common mental health challenges, such as depression and anxiety, which often arise during midlife transitions.
But what I WON’T do is let you get stuck in navel-gazing, trauma-bonding, motivational quotes or social media feeds featuring crystals and angel numbers.
We’re here to do “the work”, using real strategies to get real results.
But There’s This Amazing “Lived Experience” Midlife Coach on Instagram…
Yeah OK, so remember the time you got that job you were after? Did that make you a career coach?
Or that time you drank too many cocktails with the girls and threw up on the couch… did you add “Better Choices Therapist” to your CV? (Let’s chat if you did, I need to hear this story.)
Let’s be serious. Yes – Living through any experience gives you personal lessons, insights, and growth. But it doesn’t set you up as a trusted expert.
Some “lived experience” life coaches are absolutely fantastic, no doubt. But honestly, I’ll just say what we all know… Many still don’t have their own $h!t together and are selling programs while faking it ’til they make it in the background.
If you’re serious about meeting midlife head-on and turning this challenging phase into something seriously enriching, then choose your coach carefully based on actual qualifications, training and experience – not a brand-savvy influencer looking for 100K social media followers and to make a fast buck.
How Can Midlife Coaching Help You?
Sure, your friends, your sister, and maybe even your long-suffering colleagues will listen to you moan about how you feel stuck in a rut, frustrated, or completely unsure about all the changes you are facing in midlife.
Perhaps you’ve had a mini-meltdown and provided hours of entertainment for the neighbors. Perhaps you can barely drag your sorry backside out of bed. Either way, it’s time to get professional guidance, support, and tough-love help.
I am here to guide you through designing the next chapter of your life (even if you feel like you’re experiencing a full blown midlife crisis), with a results-focused, no-nonsense but thoroughly supportive program.
As a midlife coach, I will give you the necessary tools, techniques, clarity, guidance, and encouragement at every stage of your progress. My approach is proven, action-oriented, dare I say… fun… and designed to get results. It’s made for successful and pragmatic midlifers who have always loved a challenge and don’t shy away from hard personal development work.
Or you know, you can just go back to watching social media influencers running across beaches, laughing and flicking their hair, or talking about “manifestation vibrations” in front of crystal balls. Everyone’s different.
My Midlife Coaching Process
I’ve spent years working with clients who want to transform their midlife experiences, reconnect with what matters to them, and create a life filled with fulfillment, rich experiences, meaning, and… joy!
I use radical accountability to help you climb out of your midlife rut and launch into a thriving midlife filled with exciting opportunities, freedom, and adventure!
Yes, I’m about tough love, but I’m also incredibly supportive and, frankly, I know what I’m doing.
Choose me as your midlife reinvention coach and I will work with you using a variety of proven techniques and approaches to:
- Figure out what matters most to you; identifying your WHY and your core personal values.
- Think outside the box, with bigger, more audacious goals ranging from 1 year to “someday”.
- Push you! I challenge my clients to think differently, be courageous, and buck the status quo. Otherwise, why are we even investing in this process?
- Embrace change and growth, rather than fearing it.
- Rally and support you, while setting you up to find “your people” and a community of like-minded individuals who are following similar paths. We’re all about mentors and level-up friends here!
- Take action! “Radical Accountability” is my secret sauce, and once you experience it, you won’t believe how powerful it is (or… it will make you want to run for the hills, but hey, it got you off the sofa, though, right?).
Invest 12 Weeks of Your Time… for Midlife Reinvention
My 12-week Midlife Reinvention Mastermind helps midlifers like you get unstuck and move forward with excitement, grace, and purpose! (Don’t worry, slip-ups and mess are allowed on the way; we get very REAL in this program.)
The Midlife Reinvention Mastermind will propel you toward the next version of yourself with “radical accountability”; a no-holds-barred, refreshingly honest, supportive, and action-oriented approach to change! Sound good? Of course it does!
Why 12 weeks?
After testing different lengths of time, I landed on a 12-week Mastermind because it’s the perfect amount of time to see real results after a period of genuine, deep work. We’re not looking for quick glossy fixes here. We’re in the business of fundamental change.
The Midlife Reinvention Mastermind includes 11 group sessions as well as (you choose the number of) 1:1 sessions. In the individual sessions we work on sorting out your WHY and your core personal values in order to set your larger goals. It is during the group sessions where we focus on taking very specific actions and holding each other accountable.
Prefer Only Individual Midlife Coaching Right Now?
Absolutely fine! Some of my clients prefer private one-to-one coaching with me. This might be more for you if:
- You don’t feel ready for the Midlife Reinvention Mastermind yet and prefer a gentler launchpad.
- You’ve tried groups before and think you might get better results with individual support.
Whatever approach you feel works for you right now, that’s fine. Don’t use the options as a reason to start procrastinating! Your life is still full of amazing and exciting potential. Take a deep breath, book with me today, and let’s do this!
I'm Dr. Angela Caveney. I'm a Clinical Psychologist, Neuropsychologist, Founder of The Trybe Women's Social Club and leader of the Midlife Reimagined Mastermind.
If you are interested in learning more about the Mastermind or in creating a community of your own, reach out to me at angela@the-trybe.com to start the conversation.
